Frequently Asked Questions
I have never had coaching before. How will I know if coaching can help me?
We'll have consultation up front via Zoom. We'll get to know each other, talk about the coaching process, and the changes and benefits you are likely to experience. It's a chance to see if we will be a fit working together. I will answer any questions you have, empowering you to make a fully informed decision about what is best for you.
How is Trauma Recovery Coaching different from other types of coaching?
Trauma Recovery Coaching is different than other types of coaching because we do look at the past traumas, and how they have affected clients in the present day. Other types of coaching look only at the present/future with clients, and don’t dig down to find the root of how a client’s experience has been colored by developmental trauma. We do not use structured theories, diagnose/assess mental illness or tell clients what they should do in a given situation. We do discuss options, look at areas of potential growth, set recovery goals and view experiences, positive or negative as learning opportunities, guiding the client to see the best potential outcome for them. There is a distinct equality to the relationship, we support the client no matter what they choose to do, always validating, and understanding how they got here. The client is responsible for the outcome and growth. Trauma Recovery Coaches work in the aftereffects of trauma: codependency, shame, addiction, self-harm, focus on self-care and self-compassion, with tools to manage daily life as a survivor who is healing.
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What is it like to work with a Trauma Recovery Coach?
Trauma Recovery Coaching offers an honest and compassionate space for the unfolding of your healing journey. The goal is to help the client address the issues that hinder them from living more fully, deeply and with greater satisfaction. We explore at the client’s pace, the broken core beliefs that trauma/abuse teaches us, and how those are affecting you today. Setting small recovery goals, and succeeding in reaching them, looking at your strengths, celebrating the small victories as well as the big wins, reframing negative narratives to learning opportunities. Clients often comment that Trauma Recovery Coaching was the first relationship they felt they could actually believe in. Teaching clients healthy coping skills and tools to stabilize their lives in the short term. We work collaboratively and foster a safe space. Integrating psychoeducation, the neuroscience of trauma, somatic recognition and trigger tools, together we can manage the symptoms of complex trauma, increase awareness and create experiences for growth and healing.
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How is Trauma Recovery Coaching effective?
There are many reasons how Trauma Recovery Coaching is effective:
•The Trauma Recovery Coach walks alongside the client. We do not create a plan for healing on our own, we work together, helping the client claim their power, assert themselves and speak their truth while learning how to integrate principals into their life that are positive and healing.
•Trauma Recovery Coaching works with the whole person; body, mind and spirit. There is never a one-size-fits-all approach, instead we listen to what the client needs and offer the benefit of education, experience, hope and caring.
As a Trauma Recovery Coach I do not pathologize any trauma responses my clients have. I don't label what they are experiencing as wrong or bad. Instead, I acknowledge that they are having normal, adaptive reactions to trauma. I don't label anyone as disordered or ill because they have experienced trauma and have responded in ways that their brain and nervous system used to keep them safe and survive. We are equals in Trauma Recovery Coaching. Our relationships are collaborative and safe.
(Responses provided by Jennifer Kindera and Linda Meredith)
I don’t feel comfortable talking to a stranger about my trauma experiences. Do I have to tell you everything about my past?
Only if you choose to. It is not necessary for the details of any situation to be shared. The great thing about trauma recovery coaching is that the techniques and skills are aimed at correcting issues affecting you in the present not the past. Coaching aims to build upon the strengths and knowledge that you already have and looks at finding solutions to problems rather than focusing on the causes. The entire coaching process is client-led.
Why do I need to fill out paperwork or a consultation form before I have a session?
A quality coaching session begins with a thorough intake to discover the particular thoughts, beliefs, patterns and attitudes that are driving the behaviors that you want to change, as well as gaining clarity about the goals and outcomes you want to accomplish. Completing the initial intake form allows me to get to know your heart and expectations before our session begins. (I offer a 3 session package to help you complete the intake forms and still allow time for coaching and answering questions you may have about the process.)
How many sessions will I need?
This is completely up to you and your commitment level.
Trauma recovery coaching is a process like any other type of healing process. It takes times. How much time is determined by each client's individual needs. During our time together we will work to uncover many negative thoughts, attitudes and beliefs that influence your behaviors. We will enlist varies methods to change those negatives into postives. But to get the most out of your coaching experience you will need to practice what you learn in our sessions in your daily. It takes commitment to see the change you want to achieve. I believe you can do it!
Why do I need to buy a package of sessions?
This is because it is necessary to have commitment and accountability established, so that you experience real and lasting changes in your life. You have to want your changes so much that you commit to showing up to regular sessions, prepared to do the work. This is the way you empower yourself, as well as conquer any fears that may have previously sabotaged you making changes.